Why we need Relationship Education
While the divorce rate continues to hover around 50%, more adults are single than ever before. There’s a good reason for this. The ways of dating, relating and mating have been a changin’ for some time.
We still want all the wonderful and endearing qualities of committed relationships, AND more - but most people have not developed updated skills to support each other in making their love last in today’s world.
As human beings we have powerful desires to belong and to connect with a special someone. We have primal and biological drivers that have been in our DNA for thousands of years. And, we inherited a model for marriage and relationships that has remained largely unchanged for over 50 years. How do we understand the drivers, explore our cultural programming and honor our deepest needs and wants in attracting and maintaining a loving, satisfying, and lasting relationship in today’s world?
Couples are demanding more intimacy and insisting on supporting each other to live their best “individual” life. At the same time, contemporary partners are committed to co-creating deeply meaningful relationships; relationships that are safe havens to be one’s most vulnerable self and open to the most sacred feelings shared with another; connections defined by joy and the hopes of a future that will be a lasting testament of their love and commitment.
What a dilemma! Most of us can identify with this challenge. That traditional model was never intended to integrate our individual needs with the needs of the partnership. The traditional way promised safety, belonging, continuity and comfort, and has been deeply ingrained in all of us by watching our parents and grandparents.
One of the reasons this is so challenging is that our primal drivers still seek the traditional model, and our evolving Self wants something different. This is where the difficulty starts - and unfortunately ends for many people.
How Does Relationship Education Help?
• Helps you clarify your personal Vision, Requirements, Needs and Wants
• Supports you to answer the questions: Who am I? What do I want? How do I
get what I want?
• Focuses on developing and practicing dating skills
• Helps you become ready for a committed relationship
• Supports you to stop a dead-end relationship before you get in too deep;
develop a relationship plan; identify what is truly important to you in a mate;
get a new relationship off to a good start.
• Helps new couples be conscious and objective about the future of their
relationship and clarify issues/challenges; uncover and resolve issues and
obstacles that might hinder them from creating a relationship based on mutual
respect, self-awareness and good will and good intention
• Helps committed couples co-create a functional life-partnership; reduce
conflict; resolve resentments and anger
• Helps committed couples with a functional relationship deepen their
emotional intimacy, trust, love, and connection; develop skills, rituals, and
practices for deepening emotional, physical and spiritual connection.
Your bond with the person you live out your life with - the one you grow up and stay young with - is the single most important connection you will ever have. With updated relationship and personal growth skills you can make and keep it great.
My Coaching and Classes provide practical and life changing information about the nature and needs of individuals and couples and tools and skills for successful dating, mating, and celebrating in today’s world.
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Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside awakens. - Carl Jung
WHAT IS COACHING?
Relationship Coaching is a professional client-focused service where an individual or couple is assumed to be able to achieve relationship goals with effective support, information and guidance.
Coaching is quite simply the creation of solutions to problems, concerns or challenges that facilitate change and growth in people who use coaching. It is a tool.
HOW DOES IT WORK?
Seminars: Seminars, provide the opportunity for people to set aside one or two days and focus intently upon learning ways to approach their relationship concerns. The way we deliver these services is in a group environment which allows for maximum growth through a combination of lectures, exercises, break-out groups, and field work. These workshops are fast-paced and packed with a lot of good information. Many people will want to follow up the workshop with a series of coaching sessions to help them put into action all that they will learn.
TeleClass/Webinars: TeleClasses and Webinars provide individuals with a way to participate in a group environment without ever leaving the comfort of their homes or offices. All that is needed is a telephone or computer. They take place over several weeks, with one call per week, which lasts for 60 to 90 minutes. Materials will be delivered to participants in advance electronically.
Individual Coaching: This method of coaching allows the individual one-on-one time with a coach to do a lot of discovery and design work in getting relationships tweaked to perfection. The sessions are usually weekly and can vary in length. Individual coaching is intense and personal. This structure allows all the focus to be on you.
Couples Coaching: Coaching couples has many of the components of individual coaching, except that the focus of the session will be on the couple, rather than on either of the individuals. During these sessions, we work to find solutions to problems encountered by the couple, and we work on designing and developing the relationship to be all that the couple dreams of.
How is Coaching Different from Counseling and Therapy?
Coaching, counseling, and therapy share a lot of things in common. All of them focus on helping people make changes and accomplish goals that are important to them. Coaching focuses on accomplishing identifiable and specific goals or outcomes so clients can meet meaningful life challenges and create the life they most want to be living. The focus is on the client taking his or her own action. Coaching keeps clients focused, challenged, and motivated for living their lives on purpose. Coaching is about possibilities and the coaching relationship is the vehicle that can shift and change everyday life into realized hopes and dreams.
In coaching we ask HOW? Coaching clients move forward toward the goals they intentionally create with their coach. Counselors and therapists often ask why, the focus is often on history and gaining understanding, and clients are often moving away from pain and out of distress. In coaching we hold a vision of the future and all its possibilities.
Coaching Philosophy
Carolyn brings a unique combination of training, as well as personal and professional experience to her Relationship Coaching clients. The coaching relationship is the foundation of the coaching process.
Carolyn’s part of the coaching partnership is to be the holder of the possibilities for supporting you in getting from where you are to where you want to be.
Your part of the coaching partnership is to be ready for change, ready to discover your capacity for commitment and transformation, and ready to love and appreciate your ideal partner as you grow in love and compassion for yourself.
Learning how to deeply join your life with another is one of life’s greatest adventures. Being committed to your individual as well as your couple growth is key in creating a life of unlimited possibilities for a much richer and memorable adventure than you could create alone.
Carolyn’s education and training provide her with the tools and guidance; her life experience provides her with understanding and compassion. Your motivation provides the energy so that you and Carolyn create a coaching relationship which is based in self-discovery and possibilities for you. The place where your biggest dreams, deepest desires, and individual and joint purposes come true.
Clients for Coaching Services
• Single and serious about finding your ideal partner and co-creating a committed relationship
• Premarital couples who are interested in developing marriage success skills and divorce-proofing their marriages
• Newlyweds who want to make the success and long-term satisfaction in their marriages a reality
• Committed and serious about reducing the conflict and deepening the intimacy in your relationship
• Couples exploring commitment
• Individuals and Couples serious about evolving their lives and making a difference in the world
Relationship Coaching Programs
• Be The Love™ for Singles Course
• Be The Love™ for Couples Foundation Course (Premarital & Newlywed)
• Be The Love™ for Evolving Couples Course
Personal Growth & Spiritual Development Programs
• Evolved Living™ Life Transformation Course
• Evolve It Sisters! Global Support Community
BeTheLove™ Coaching, Programs and Seminars provide practical and life changing information about the nature and needs of individuals and couples, and tools and skills for successful dating, mating, celebrating, and actualizing one’s potential in today’s world.
I invite you to explore your possibilities for living your highest vision of living and loving. Email or call me at 303-877-9913 to schedule a complimentary couple or individual coaching session.
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